A Woman's Sexual Power Can Support or Destroy a Marriage

Dear Dorothy:  I am a successful dentist in Los Angeles. Two years ago, my wife left me and taking our two teenage children with her. I was and still am completely crestfallen. What did I do wrong? My wife was everything to me. I loved and adored her.

During the 19 years of our marriage, I was very happy, I would do anything for her, even though she sometimes seemed distant and unsatisfied. A year before she left me, she became very cold and started to make herself more beautiful - exercising and dressing up every day. Then came the divorce. She said that we were no longer right for each other, that we did not understand each other any more. 

What happened? Do you think I can get her back? I miss my wife and kids so much.

Dorothy: It appears that your wife was cheating on you. I am sorry. Her four dense bodies are gripped by the illusion that feeling loved is dependent on input from her environment, rather than the inner stability of her own Divine relationship with pure love. Because the field of the manifest reality is basically an empty reflection of inner reality, it is ultimately unsatisfying. This is why, in spite of your devotion, she is seeking more, never satisfied. One must build on the mountain itself, not on its reflection in the lake.

When a woman finds the power to control a relationship with her sexuality this awakens great evolution and can bring tremendous stability, happiness, and progress to a marriage. Balancing the energies of her femininity against the masculine energies of her husband, she can help him develop habits which will make her life happier. Using her understanding of his nature, she can provide favors and pleasure customized to his preferences. Thus, based on a system of rewards a couple can establish a luscious tension between the male and female energies which satisfy both.  

We are all infinity made manifest. Our world is our reflection. No one person, situation, or thing can reflect the totality of your Divine inner love. If one expects the spouse to be “everything,” to masterfully express the totality of perfect love, this is asking too much and not practical. At best, each person in our universe will reflect a portion or fraction of the inner experience of total love. However, knowing oneself as Divinity loving Itself results in reflections of love from every corner of creation. When synthesis of all relationships and experiences reflects the story of eternity, then every relationship resolves to fulfillment.

Bless your wife for bravely opening to her creative powers. However, I am so sorry that she wasn't able to analyze the situation better and consider ways of expressing that creativity which brings the family closer together. Time is required to establish enough trust to support deep powerful love. Starting over now, your wife will find herself back at a superficial level with new relationships, and lovers who are no better at being "everything" to her than you were. 

Menopause brings a sense of sexuality which feels nearly out of control. A lot of women make rash decisions at that time which do not take common sense into consideration. This phase is temporary. It may not seem obvious in the moment, but the intensity of a woman's sexuality reduces a lot when she finishes menopause. She could feel very different in a few years. 

You are now in a position to create anything you want. Usually a break like this cannot be properly repaired. But the karma released by losing your wife and family in such a way will create an open door for a relationship of much greater value, much greater stability. There is still so much life ahead of you and this experience will help your discrimination as you move ahead. 

Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I am very sure that your ability to submit to a sweetheart will find its resting place in a wonderful relationship. Someone who is stable in her own self love will be able to treat you with more warmth and more sensitivity to your needs. 

May you find the resolution to this situation which brings maximum fulfillment to the goal of total unfoldment of full potential and union with cosmic evolution.

Much love,
Dorothy